Another possibility is to use "op", although it can feel a bit forumish.

I used OP, though, I didn't want to use "OP" every time I am referencing this person, I thought it would sound strange OP OP OP...

Anyway, I'm glad this thread turned into a "how you can avoid being called a misogynist in throwaway comment on HN". I guess from now on, I filter through my comments through Gemini to make sure my English is immaculate and that native English speakers don't castigate me for a small mistake.

Mattlondon probably could have done without the color commentary, but I wouldn't take anything you did as wrong in English.

Our lack of singular neuter pronouns sucks. (I.e. singular 'they')