I mirror your experience. People are hostile and always interpret in the worst possible way. It is very difficult to defuse a situation, it's like walking on eggshells while blindfolded with a heavy backpack. I don't like their community at all.
The persistent unwillingness to engage and the inclination to dismiss was remarkable. Rachelbythebay had something somewhere about patches kept private and not submitted because no one wants to put up with an unreasonable or arrogant maintainer. All her observations apply here. Who would put up with the concentrated obnoxiousness?
